What cool sex is not...
(nb there is such a thing as 'sacred hot sex' but if you are ready for that you won't be reading this article).
Ironically the more desensitised the genitals become the more the intense friction required & the more degrading the sexual 'act' becomes.
Our genitals have a phenomenal capacity for sensitivity, transmutation & healing. And if they are pounded, ground and otherwise abused before being adequately warmed up they will harden & desensitise. A woman's delicate flower begins to shut down & close in order to protect itself from further violence.
Is it any wonder that women feel conflicted by their deep desire to love and be loved coexisting with the memory of sex that was either traumatising or at best unfulfilling.
So what is cool sex?
Cool sex involves no 'doing' whatsoever. Starting with a pronged Heart-Hug where energy begins to flow. If and when the genitals are included time is allowed for the initial arousal of fantasy & excitement to subside. The genitals are then free to communicate directly beyond the level of mind. To soften and open in sensitivity.
Love = Presence
Love = Innocence
Love is patient, kind and orgasmic on a whole different level!